Russian/Italian | Congolese/South African/Dutch


I lived in Romania most of my life.  I was the only mixed person in the country in 1981 who was mixed race.  Oh at times I hated that and felt like an alien sometimes. It’s been bad to be mixed but I guess it’s ok because I don’t know what it is like to be one colour, black or white. I really think it has helped me because I feel like I do not identify with any group what so ever, you know what I mean. I feel like I am quite versatile.
I never felt different while in London; I mean I felt very much at home from the first week which was cool. When people ask me where I am from, I tell them I am from Transylvania and then we have this discussion if this place really exists … In London people don’t look at me weird and people don’t chase me in the shops.  I feel in London I can be ignored. That never happened back in Romania.
Human beings like any other animal have this issue if something is different and we don’t understand it, at some point we will hate it and just don’t like it. Yes, I was discriminated against because of my looks many times. Now I am ok. I was not ok 35 years ago. Luckily I had a very good family. They always encouraged me to be myself and that is a good thing. I have never been to Africa. My father died 20 years ago. Unlike my European family, his family never considers me part of their family.  It’s a family thing. We don’t think that we are welcome here so that cool.  I don’t feel like exploring Africa anymore than exploring Japan or Asia. I don’t feel like I have a connection with it other then the biological one.

I was raised by a white family in a white county of course I am aware I am mixed race but I don’t feel any connection with Africa.

I don’t really believe in groups. I understand that most people feel the need to identify to belong to a group so I would not talk about mixed race people like I would not talk about blond people, tall people or short people.  I am very individualistic and I much more believe that if people are strong and they want to do something with their lives they can do it, regardless of being mixed race or stupid or whatever.